Do not introduce anyone to a routine you will not be able to maintain!
I don’t know where I heard this (or read it) but I think it’s true. People come to value the consistency you exhibit and in so doing hold you to the standard you’ve set for yourself.
All that sounds good, doesn’t it? People know you as consistent and it might not be an exciting thing to hear but there is stability in that. There is order in routine.
Till you don’t feel like it! (And this encompasses as many things as those that fit the bill.)
You don’t feel like waking up every morning to prepare that king-size/worthy breakfast on a rainy morning where the warmth of the bed beckons you deeper.
You don’t feel like continuing your daily streak on your exercise because…you just don’t have the strength for it.
And so many things we set ourselves up for, that we honestly desire for ourselves. The trying comes in the follow through.
I read a book ‘Let me be a woman’ by Elisabeth Elliott and am now going through it for a study. What prompted the book was to a desire to give some insight into what marriage might look like (and no…there are no wedding bells in my near future but it doesn’t hurt to get a little perspective). One of the lines in the book reads ‘love doesn’t preserve the marriage, the marriage preserves the love.’
When you first read it, it seems absolutely unbelievable. Because we don’t ever want to imagine that there will come a time in a relationship where love doesn’t spur us into action, instead a commitment does. That’s where the vows and promises you make to yourself kick in.
But this is not about wedding vows. This is about the things we commit to, the things we get into when we are high on emotion and good deeds. And shockingly find there are days we just don’t feel like them. This in no way undermines the fact that we love them. It’s just the simple fact that sometimes ‘love doesn’t preserve the commitment, the commitment preserves the love.’
I have this in my writing journey. I love writing!! I can’t ever stress this enough or find the right words to explain the rush I get from putting words and sentences together. But at the start of last year, I had drowned out the love in it and it started feeling like a chore. That’s the worst feeling to come to something with. It should be with ease and enjoyment if it should be largely rewarding. And I decided to get in some writing everyday, not a lot but just enough to keep the skill at the ready.
And yet there are days where I don’t feel like writing! (what sort of writer are you?! You are probably wondering). But because I have committed myself to it, I sit there and throw words together and before I know it, I’m caught in that rush that is writing and I see it through. Commitment sustains the love.
I’m in danger of repeating myself trying to put this point across. So I’ll leave it at this ’emotions are temporary and our feelings leave little room for mercy’ (lyrics from the song The Question). Push through the muddy feelings and establish consistency – that in and out of season someone can know you to do something. Consistently.