Owning your timeline

Because the year is coming to a close, I thought I would revisit this post from July🤭 about my theme for next year. I have certainly been thinking a lot about doing things in my time and not feeling rushed or behind for a whole. But that confidence is always fleeting when the world applies its own pressure. Anyway, I hope these thoughts encourage you in your path.

I’ve been thinking on this for the past two days and figured it should be my theme for next year (pretty ballsy, right? Planning for next year when I have no guarantee that I will see the end of this one but…hope!)

For a full year now, I’ve felt overwhelmingly as though am on ‘Pause’. And held back by that unfounded fear of being left behind. By who you ask?…the classmates. There is this unspoken agreement once you learn the people you study with that you must keep in step together. That if by an age that they shall at a given time agree upon you haven’t achieved certain things, you are ‘behind’ and the door is closing on that opportunity.

There’s that take on things…and the feeling that comes along with it. That in comparison to ‘the squad’ you are failing. And not where you are supposed to be!!!

The book ‘The Time Keeper’ by Mitch Albom echoes that notion that comes once in a while of how there is no late or early there is just the right time. Its harder to grasp when it feels like you are falling farther behind in the race of life. It starts to sound like some comforting cliché.

Where am I going with this? Where indeed. I’m not so sure about it. But I recently read the line ‘Let not our longing slay the appetite for living‘. Let us not get so married to working against a given timeline that we forget the joys of daily living.

There are definitely things we aim for, things we hope to have, let’s have the maturity to not fall apart when they are a little delayed. Or simply put, the knowledge that you have your own path and as winding and long as it may seem, it’s still beautiful in its own way. So it contains a few more bumps and detours, holdups and U-turns than most people around you (apparently), it probably has some fast lanes and good views along the way too.

You can tell am still making up my thoughts on this as I go along, can’t you? Hopefully by the time the new year rolls around I’ll have wrapped my head in taking my journey with the confidence and realisation that I’m my own competition, striving to be a better me than I was yesterday. To take my eyes off everyone’s timeline and appreciate my own!

I do hope at least one thing in these winding thoughts struck a chord. Feel free to let me know in the comments.

All pictures taken from Unsplash.

15 thoughts on “Owning your timeline

  1. This is such a good post. We need to remind ourselves often to not fall into the trap of comparing our timelines with someone else’s. we overlook the blessings we have received and overlook how much we have moved forward in our journey if all we do is have our eyes focused on other’s journeys.
    Owing your timeline- I like that.

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    1. We definitely overlook our blessings. I think I’ve also been awakened to how often I dismiss my own accomplishments just because they don’t look as huge or newsworthy as everyone else’s.
      Yep 😊 owning the timeline is the goal. Thank you for reading and commenting.

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  2. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. One of the things this year has thought me is to enjoy the now even as I await the next. We all have our time. And with God, it will surely come to pass in His own graceful and mind-blowing way. 😊

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    1. Yes, there’s that line in the song As it is in Heaven by Hillsong that says ‘While I’m waiting, I’m not waiting’. Enjoy the now as you aspire for the next. There is no fault in that. Thank you for reading and commenting.


  3. I love every single line of this post. People need to be reminded of this now and then. Trying to fit in into other people’s timeline is the reason why many have lived a frustrated life or worst still, ended up in misery. While it’s perfectly okay to have good expectations and work towards achieving them, it becomes a problem when someone else’s achievements becomes one’s yardstick for progress. We all need to learn to stay in our own lanes and run our races with patience. Thanks for the post, “The Afterthought” 😁

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    1. I know a bit about the misery we end up in😅 when we use someone else’s achievement as the yardstick for where we should be at in life. And looking at someone else always diminishes our own achievements and progress. Thank you for the comment…and the link back🙈🙈. I appreciate it all greatly.

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  4. WOW, this is a very relatable post! I will not go on a rant, mainly because I feel like writing a 2K word reply, but I too came to this same realization. Stop watching everyone around me and focus on myself and my journey! It’s so easy to compare yourself to someone standing next to you because they are there, but their journey is, or may not be, the same as yours. Powerful post and I really hope it helps people realize that paying attention to someone else and comparing you to them is literally neglecting yourself. If we all had the same timeline and journey, then we would all be like those robots in iRobot, in a line waiting for the same ending.

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    1. Thank you for taking the time to read and comment. And I agree, it’s important to keep your focus on your own path. I like that reference to iRobot too. I think I’ve been guilty of neglecting myself when I’m busy keeping up with the rest of the world. I appreciate the comment. 😊

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