On the whole I like makeovers. Mostly house related but once in a while I can be moved to watch fashion makeovers. Like the show ‘How do I look?’ Totally enjoyed that. I was always so vocal about what fashion trends worked for people (and yes I know what fashion trends would work for me 😒- I just need money! Money, money, money! Or great tips on how to shop on a budget – someone please).
Have you ever heard the statement ‘go back and and change’ directed at you before? Was it followed up with a threat too😂? After you’ve dressed up and in your head you are killing it…
then someone kills your vibe!
Usually if I am going out the following day (hello Ugandan lockdown), I plan my outfit the day before in my head. And usually in my head it looks great. Then I get to put it on and there are some things that don’t flow right. It goes without saying that something about that needs to change.
They are some outfits you look at and in your head it’s a ‘no’. For yourself and others that you meet. Wondering how they had the courage to walk out of their house – if there was a mirror or friends around.
I get that people do not want to be told how to dress. We are wild about no judgment and doing what makes us happy but you’ve also probably heard how people usually treat you based on your appearance – yes people are mostly shallow like that. And much as you dress for you, I think it would be nice to respect your audience. That when in Rome jambo.
It won’t distort your personality if you do dress with your audience in mind. Suits and office outfits for your job interviews – no one complains about that though, strange unflattering things when you are going to meet grandparents or some other traditional occasion even though you’d rather otherwise (though I think these things are slowly adapting to accommodate fashion preferences), sports clothes for sports events even though you’d rather show up in your long flowing skirts.
Quick story here – in my S1, before we had our school-issued sports wear, we had a Physics teacher who came in immediately after our P.E classes (and she knew that too). She hated that girls could wear pants and shorts and would send us out of class because she found it offensive. Dressing right can be an uphill task. I can at times relate to that question ‘what should I wear’ when standing before a full wardrobe.
But I think we can also be more aware of how we dress. For every outfit made, I believe there is an event and place for it. Pyjamas are for your room and I’ll frown if I see you in them in public. The swim suit truly is for the beach or a water-related facility. And this is not trying to kill your mojo, just saving you from the side eye and sneers (which you probably say don’t bother you even if they really do).
So…go back and change.
Ok. This blog post has come in later than expected to close off Day 17 even though it mostly sounds like a rant. I probably just had to keep going back and changing it up😅.