At this point, online anything has mostly become common place. We live in a time where most love stories (because I watch plenty of those – if you read the previous post) have an element of social media. Whether they met on Instagram or Facebook, even Tiktok. Let’s not get even get into the online dating sites. And outside the romantic, there are other relationships that bloom and are sustained without the in-person meeting.
I would know – I’m yet to meet the people I work with.
So clearly this works.
Communications are started and they lead to something more. A text or a photo and the story unfolds in ways you didn’t think it could. If you think that is wild – read The Wind Catcher. It’s a beautiful story and masterfully told. They got together because of comments on a blog post. I read that story with a smile on my face. Life wilder than fiction!
In this post, I might have disclosed that I was on a mission to make a few new friends this year. I started with just four and now, because we still have to deal with lockdowns and restrictions, I have decided just one is good enough (can you tell how hard this is).
Usually, I’m hesitant about those online things. There are body language cues you miss and strange tones you infer from messages you read. All of it is mostly hazy and I keep thinking people are tailoring themselves for their online personality. And of course the delay in response.
Because conversation doesn’t usually come easy to me, I used to think texts are better than calls – though I will take a face to face meet over both. Then I found that those are hard too and group chats are mostly impossible. I never send messages in groups with more than ten people at the acceptable frequency. The more the people, the more the dynamics and I just retract into my shell.
But I want to change that. I’m working on changing that.
I stopped being picky and decided I should give in to the online connections and really follow them through. Be the first to reach out. Ask more questions. Maybe call….maybe.
Enter the new group I joined! (To be honest I miss the school setting which always made opportunity for making friends even though I don’t make great use of it).
So far (read the past two weeks) -there’s promise 😂😂. It is more than ten people – yes I am stretching myself. We have had group calls and interesting conversations. How much is too much to tell people you’ve never met in person? But I like that we have good common ground.
Anyway, I’m navigating this the best way I know how. If you have any tips, let me know. If you have a story of a relationship – be it friendship or mentorship or work-related – that began online and you would like to share, please let me know. I would love to read those.